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Gottman Method couples therapy in Calgary.

Four decades of research distilled into a structured approach to what makes relationships last. Seven of our therapists are Gottman-trained — the same body of work John and Julie Gottman have built at the Gottman Institute since 1986.

Who you might work with

FP therapists trained in Gottman.

Browse and click into a bio. The free consult is a call to talk through fit, fees, and insurance.

What it is

A structured, research-backed couples therapy.

The Gottman Method comes from longitudinal research with thousands of couples — couples observed in a lab over 40 years, looking specifically at what differentiated relationships that lasted from ones that didn’t.

Out of that work came a model of relationship health called the Sound Relationship House — nine levels covering everything from building love maps and turning toward bids, to managing conflict, to creating shared meaning.

Therapy starts with an assessment to identify which of those levels need work in your specific relationship, then uses targeted exercises and conversations to rebuild them. The approach is unusually concrete: you leave most sessions with a specific thing to try at home.

What it’s good for

Where Gottman work fits.

Communication breakdowns — the “Four Horsemen” (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) Gottman later named based on early longitudinal work on what predicts marital dissolution (Gottman & Levenson, 1992).

Trust repair after infidelity — structured rebuilding through atonement, attunement, and attachment.

Recurring conflict — specifically the patterns that keep showing up no matter the topic.

Intimacy & connection — emotional and physical, after the early years.

Big life transitions — new baby, retirement, career change, separation conversations.

References

Gottman, J. M., & Levenson, R. W. (1992). Marital processes predictive of later dissolution: Behavior, physiology, and health. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 63(2), 221–233. doi:10.1037/0022-3514.63.2.221

Gottman, J. M., & Gottman, J. S. (2017). The natural principles of love. Journal of Family Theory & Review, 9(1), 7–26. doi:10.1111/jftr.12182

Twenty minutes. On the phone. Free.

Tell us what’s going on and ask anything — insurance, format, fees, what a first session looks like. You’ll be on the call with one of our therapists, and we’ll go from there together. If we’re not the right practice for you, we’ll say so.